The Importance of Having Children

 One of the inevitable steps of a family is the moment when they have children. This is a very important step that requires a lot of changes. Both partners will acquire specific roles that will be essential to the functionality of the family. In class we discussed the benefits of having children. These benefits will be of use for both the parents and the children themselves. As this is a new step for parents, they will learn new things that they had not been previously taught about. For example, they will learn responsibility. This is not a responsibility like the one they had to have before. This is one that is mostly based on the fact that they are now the prime people in charge of the children, and that is their duty to properly take care of them. Having children will also help the couple be more united. I have heard many stories of how having children, has helped partners become closer because they have to work as a team in order to raise their children. They have to become one. Another benefit for parents is the fact that it teaches them selflessness. This is one of the things I have heard in my own family, and that I often hear my mom talk about. My mom has said that having children is something completely different from what you expected, and that when you have children you leave yourself aside and that your whole life is focused on your children and raising them. My mom always said that once you have children, you understand the true meaning of love. She says that parents would do anything for their children, that they are completely devoted to them.

On the other hand, children having parents will help them have different perspectives in life. They will learn from their parents many things, including how the world works and how to be part of it. Also, having parents will allow children to have their needs covered. Parents main focus in life once they have children is providing them with anything they need. One example would be the mother of one of my closest friends. She was a single mother and she dedicated her whole energy on being able to provide her children with the bare necessities. What I believe is one of the most important benefits of children having parents (a mom and a dad) is that they will be more enthusiastic about being parents themselves. This can also be illustrated with real life examples. I have two friends whose parents are divorced, and the separation was pretty traumatic for them, since they were kids when it happened. Practically their whole lives they have lived without both parents in the house. Because of this I believe, they have no interest in having a family of their own. They don´t want to have children. One of the reasons why is because they believe they would be terrible parents and they don’t want to do that. One of them has told me that she has never been showed affection by her parents and that she wouldn´t know how to be a mother. This something that we have also discussed in class. If we have never been showed how to do things, if we haven´t been taught… how are we supposed to do things? Being parents, I believe is an essential teaching itself. By being a parent, interacting with them and doing your role, you show your children how to be one. They can learn many things. They can learn what to do and what not do as well.

In my opinion, society tells us today that there is no need to have children. That is no longer the most important things in life. That we can focus on ourselves, our jobs, and our lives and that is all. But, as we have seen, there are many benefits to having children for both of them, and by having children we will also benefit society itself.